Shame is often called the "master emotion" underlying addiction, codependency, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and so many struggles in recovery and life. Unlike guilt (which says "I did something bad"), shame whispers "I am bad. I am fundamentally flawed and unworthy."
This comprehensive 8-week series will help you understand the difference between healthy and toxic shame, recognize how shame has shaped your life, and learn to transform toxic shame into authentic self-acceptance and connection.
This isn't just psychoeducation—it's a complete system for working with shame that integrates:
Deep education on the origins and mechanisms of toxic shame
Body-based practices to recognize and release shame held in your nervous system
Practical tools you can use immediately when shame arises
Trauma-informed approaches that honor your healing journey
Compassionate inner child work (introduction to deeper work available in future workshops)
Shame resilience practices including vulnerability, speaking shame, and building empathy
Weekly somatic practices to keep you regulated and grounded as you do this deep work
Why Shame Work Matters in Recovery
Shame is at the root of so much suffering:
Addiction and compulsive behaviors often develop as ways to numb or escape toxic shame
People-pleasing and perfectionism are shame's protective strategies
Self-sabotage and isolation keep us trapped in the shame spiral
Relationship struggles emerge when we're hiding our authentic self
Depression and anxiety are often shame wearing different masks
When you're ready to address the toxic shame underneath your patterns, profound healing becomes possible. Many people find that working with shame opens doors to deeper self-acceptance, authentic connection, and lasting change in their mental health and overall wellbeing.
Series Structure: What to Expect
Week 1:Understanding Shame + Regulation Toolkit Learn what shame actually is, the crucial difference between healthy and toxic shame, how toxic shame develops, and your foundational somatic tools for staying regulated throughout this series.
Week 2: The Body of Shame - Deep Somatic Work Understand the physiology of shame, recognize how shame lives in your body, and learn comprehensive body-based practices for releasing shame and coming back to safety.
Week 3: Shame vs. Guilt, and the False Self Distinguish between shame and guilt, understand how shame creates a "false self" or mask, explore perfectionism and people-pleasing as shame defenses, and begin recognizing your authentic self.
Week 4: Shame and Addiction/Compulsive Behaviors Explore how toxic shame fuels addiction and compulsive behaviors, understand the shame-addiction cycle, learn why we use substances and behaviors to numb shame, and discover practices for breaking the cycle.
Week 5: Speaking Shame and Shame Resilience Learn the power of bringing shame out of hiding, practice vulnerability and speaking your truth, build shame resilience, and understand empathy as the antidote to shame.
Week 6: Healing the Wounded Inner Child Introduction to inner child work (based on Bradshaw's teachings), identify your wounded inner child, practice compassion for your younger self, and learn when deeper inner child work might be beneficial (future workshop series available).
Week 7:Shame in Relationships and Intimacy Understand how shame shows up in relationships, practice vulnerability with safe others, repair shame-based relationship patterns, and learn to connect authentically despite shame.
Week 8:Integration and Continued Practice Bring all the tools together, create sustainable practices for ongoing shame work, understand the journey from toxic shame to healthy shame, and reclaim your authentic self.
Who This Series Is For
This series is designed for anyone who:
Struggles with feeling fundamentally flawed or "not enough"
Uses perfectionism, people-pleasing, or overachieving to prove their worth
Experiences shame spirals or inner critic attacks
Numbs shame through substances, behaviors, or compulsions
Hides their authentic self to avoid rejection
Is in recovery and recognizes shame as a core issue
Feels paralyzed by shame or unable to be vulnerable
Wants to break generational shame patterns
Seeks to heal the wounded parts of themselves
Is ready to reclaim their authentic, worthy self
How to Use This Series
In-Person or Online Group (Recommended): This series is designed to be facilitated in a group setting over eight weeks, meeting weekly for 90-120 minutes. The group format provides safety, shared experience, normalization of shame, and collective healing. Shame thrives in isolation and heals in connection—doing this work in community is powerful.
Self-Paced Individual Work: You can also work through this series on your own, completing one week at a time. If you choose to do this independently, we strongly encourage you to have support in place—a therapist, sponsor, trusted friend, or accountability partner. This work brings up deep emotions and old wounds. Having support makes the journey safer and more sustainable.
What You'll Need
Journal or notebook for weekly reflections and practices
Commitment to weekly somatic practices (5-10 minutes daily)
Willingness to look honestly at your shame patterns with compassion
Courage to feel difficult emotions and stay present
Support system (group, therapist, trusted friends, recovery community)
Patience and gentleness with yourself as you heal
Important Notes
This series is trauma-informed but not trauma therapy. Toxic shame often has roots in childhood trauma, developmental trauma, or systemic oppression. If your shame feels overwhelming, deeply entrenched, or connected to significant trauma, please seek support from a trauma-informed therapist (EMDR, IFS, somatic experiencing, etc.) in addition to this work.
Healing shame is not linear. You will have good weeks and hard weeks. Shame will still show up sometimes—that's normal. What changes is your relationship with it and your ability to respond with compassion instead of spiraling.
This work requires vulnerability. Shame heals when we bring it out of hiding and into the light. This takes courage. Be gentle with yourself as you practice this new way of being.
You are not broken. Toxic shame tells you that you are fundamentally flawed. This is a lie. You are a human being who experienced things that taught you to believe this lie. This series will help you unlearn it.
The Foundation: What You'll Learn
By the end of this 8-week series, you will:
Understand the difference between healthy and toxic shame
Recognize shame when it arises in your body, thoughts, and behaviors
Have practical tools for regulating your nervous system when shame is activated
Distinguish between shame, guilt, and other emotions
Identify your false self and begin reconnecting with your authentic self
Understand how shame fuels your addictive and compulsive patterns
Practice vulnerability and speaking shame out loud in safe spaces
Begin healing your wounded inner child with compassion
Transform shame in your relationships and practice authentic connection
Build shame resilience that will support you for the rest of your life
Key Concepts You'll Explore
From John Bradshaw:
Toxic shame as internalized belief of being fundamentally flawed
The development of toxic shame in childhood and family systems
The "false self" created to hide shame and gain acceptance
Original pain work and grieving developmental wounds
Shame vs. guilt: "I am bad" vs. "I did something bad"
Shame resilience: recognizing triggers and reaching out
Vulnerability as courage, not weakness
Empathy as the antidote to shame
Shame thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment
Somatic and Trauma-Informed Approaches:
The physiology of shame in the nervous system
Body-based shame recognition and release
Grounding and regulation practices
Healing shame through felt safety in the body
Integration with Recovery:
How toxic shame drives addiction and compulsive behaviors
Perfectionism and people-pleasing as shame defenses
Breaking the shame-addiction cycle
Building authentic connection in recovery
A Note on Safety and Pacing
This is deep work. Shame touches our most vulnerable wounds. Throughout this series, you will learn to:
Resource yourself first before diving into difficult material
Go at your own pace and take breaks when needed
Use somatic tools to stay regulated while exploring shame
Practice self-compassion when shame gets activated
Reach out for support instead of isolating
Honor your limits and know when to pause
Every week includes grounding and regulation practices to keep you safe as you do this work. You will not be asked to dive into shame without having tools to support yourself.
The Journey Ahead
Healing toxic shame is some of the most courageous work you can do. It requires:
Honesty about how shame has shaped your life
Vulnerability in bringing shame out of hiding
Compassion for the wounded parts of yourself
Patience with the non-linear nature of healing
Willingness to feel difficult emotions
Connection with safe others who can witness your truth
You deserve to live free from toxic shame. You deserve to know your inherent worthiness. You deserve to show up as your authentic self without hiding or performing.
This 8-week series will give you the understanding, tools, and practices to begin that journey.
Credits and Acknowledgments
This series is built on the foundational work of:
John Bradshaw - Author of "Healing the Shame That Binds You" and "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child." His groundbreaking work on toxic shame, the false self, and inner child healing forms the backbone of this series.